Welcome New Readers!

Thanks to a recent post on Sheila Gregoire’s blog, To Love Honor And Vacuum, we have a number of new folks following us here on the blog.  So we just wanted to take a quick opportunity to say, “Hello…and Welcome!”

Now that you’re following us, we wanted to point you to some of our most read posts here on the Do Not Disturb Blog.  And for those of you who have been with us a little while but have only began following us within the past 3-6 months, you may find the below links helpful as well.

#1 – The Meaning of Marriage Study

If you’re looking for one of the best of the best books ever written on the subject of marriage, you need to read Tim Keller’s “The Meaning of Marriage.”  And if you really want to study through the book, we’ve put together an excellent study guide that’s not only featured here on our blog, but also on the LifeChurch.tv Small Group resource page as well.  We’re honored by the thousands of downloads this study has received, but even more than that, we’re simply thrilled that people are taking the opportunity to read Keller’s book and gain a fuller understanding of the most important relationship on earth – marriage.

#2 – Unmet Expectations

We wrote this series last year and would like to one day further develop it into a six week e-book / study on the subject of unmet expectations.  Until then, feel free to read through this series and take the opportunity to follow-through on some of the ‘homework’ assignments we provided.

#3 – Sex Positive Voices

A while back a number of female bloggers took the opportunity share some of the reasons as to why they enjoy sex.  Here’s Megan’s 10 reasons!  And if you want to hear Justin’s two cents on the subject, you can read that here.

#4 – 30 Day Challenge: Communication

One of our most viewed posts of all time.  But don’t just read it…take the challenge!

#5 – Unlocking Your Bedroom Door

Another one of our most read posts of all time.  Definitely worth the read.

That’s all for now.  We’re thrilled your following us, and if you ever have a specific question or subject you’d like us to consider writing about, feel free to write to us at our email address provided in the “About” page above.  Thanks!

Beginning the Dialog:


I love sex! There you have it, now everyone knows.  I obviously don’t talk about sex in every conversation but I have never been one to shy away from discussing openly and honestly this very private area of my married life. You may be asking yourself “Why would you ever talk about sex?” or “What qualifies you to talk about it?” and the simple answer was stated in the first sentence of this post.  I am not an expert. I don’t have a degree in medicine or psychology. I am not a family and marriage counselor or a sex therapist. I am just a woman who loves sex. I have experienced a great amount of freedom, enjoyment and satisfaction in my marriage in the area of intimacy and I know from conversations with many other women, that is a very desirable  trait in life. I simply want to share my perspective and experiences in hopes that others can learn from it. And it’s my desire that this be an open place for growing stronger marriages.


I am a pastor.  There, now you know.  But this blog isn’t necessarily about my experience as a pastor.  It’s about relationships.  And outside my relationship with God, my relationship with Megan is the most important part of my life.  So important that I openly discuss it with others regularly.

In fact, just a couple of weeks ago I was discussing the subject of marriage with a friend.  I couldn’t tell you how the conversation started, nor could I tell you how we began to discuss sex (it just seems to come naturally to me, I suppose).  As the discussion continued my friend said, “You must be a real tiger in bed.”  Our conversation was simple. No details were given. Yet he somehow knew my marriage and sex life must be great if I was so open to discussing it.

This blog is simply an extension of how I already converse with others about marriage and sex.  And it’s my sincere hope this is just the beginning of a long conversation with you.


We have many thoughts for future posts.  However, if you have any specific questions you’d like to see answered in a future post, feel free to let us know in the comments below, or in an anonymous email.  We’d love to hear from you!

Yes, We’re Open!

Greetings Everyone!

If you’re thinking this is just another marriage blog, think again.  Here at Do Not Disturb we’ll be talking a lot about marriage, but we’ll be talking even more about the aspect of marriage few willingly discuss in public: Sex.

Just one look at that word, “Sex” and all sorts of images may come to one’s mind.  For some, it’s Shame. Doubt. Frustration. Or worse, Disappointment.  For us, it’s Beauty. Joy. And Freedom.

Sadly, history has shown us that marriages that do fail, often fail first in the bedroom. Therefore, here on the Do Not Disturb Blog we’ll be discussing marriage and the joy that may be – and should be! – found regularly behind closed doors.

We thank you for joining us, and hope that this blog strengthens your marriage and intimate lives in more ways than one.